The online shop, San Francisco Leather, has a well-manufactured metal butt plug series which comes in 5 or 6 diameters increasing in size. I haven't bought one yet, but I intend to buy either the XX-Large or XXX-Large to train my whole to expand wider. I have found that the butt plugs at other correspond to at most the X-large version at SML.
See the butt plug series.