Discord currently has a board called "Speedo Fantasy" and another called "Fetish Worldwide". As I understand, you will need an invitation to join these rooms and the invitations expire after a few weeks and someone needs to provide updated invitations.
For "Speedo Fantasy", try this link:
https://discord.gg/VF6xaG7h
For "Fetish Worldwide", try this link:
https://discord.gg/Kt5dcvMR
This group has lots of subcategories. Visit the ones you like.
The groups are somewhat unpopular, but as they already exist, perhaps members here can breathe new life into them.
Please note that chats are archived. Within each chat, you can scroll backwards and view previous conversations.
You can create "friends" lists and see when they are online. You might be able to link back to your SpandexParty profile. You are limited to a single photo in your profile here, but if you post photos to chat threads, they will remain after you log off.
Live cam chat can happen privately with another user or within a room labeled "cam chat". People can pop in and out of the cam chat rooms even if they choose not to turn on their cams.
As with all platforms, there's a learning curve, but you'll figure it out.