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Racism in the world of spandex/lycra
posted 5 days ago
I’m open to sharing zentai space with anyone—race, ethnicity, gender identity, religion… that’s not the issue.
But let’s not pretend everything’s equal in this patriarchal system…
Darker-skinned folks get overlooked. We get told we don’t “fit,” or that we don’t “look right” in it. But you wanna dress up as Black Panther thinking you can dress better than Chadwick Boseman❓🤨
I’ve seen it, I’ve felt it - for six years straight.
So yeah, I keep my heart open… but I’m not blind to what’s really going on.
And it’s not just about race - I also see how beautiful bears, who are genuinely stunning, get overlooked because of fatphobia, which I find pretty diabolical if you ask me…
What I’m trying to say is why can’t we embrace the beauty and uniqueness of everyone in zentai, and just enjoy the passion of the fabric, the confidence it brings, and the beauty of connection?
Because right now, it’s starting to feel like a “Whites and Asians only” space…🍵
posted 5 days ago
I for my part can say that I do not discriminate anyone because of their skin color or the way they look or where they come from.
I even think that darker skin looks absolutely hot, specially when combined with white lycra.
If anyone writes me, I write back. If a conversation builds up from that, hey what do I care what the other guy looks like.
Concerning your point on the looks. I guess everyone has their favorite type of person, and if someone loves bears, another one enjoys skinny twinks and the third one likes small "nerdy" (said with utmost respect, as my husband is short and a bit nerdy) looking guys, then so be it.
I'm definitely not saying that there is no racism, but I hope it isn't really that bad the way you described it.
posted 5 days ago
Thank you so much for your response. It is utterly frustrating when someone come love-bomb messaging you and you feel the enthusiasm and then once the face pic is revealed, they ghost you immediately like you never existed and it kinda makes me lose interest of wearing it and kill my confidence and identity of loving spandex/lycra because I’m not their “type” because I’m not white or asian i guess outside of the suits…. and I just feel invisible like I don’t belong in this beautiful tight-sexy world.
I almost thought about burning all of my suits a few months ago because of the lack of visibility but they want attention which I find it very contradicting and narcissistically egotistical…
I just wanna have fun or even appreciate how awesome any human beings wearing zentais…💔
posted 5 days ago
Please don't let this get you down. Just enjoy showing off your sexy body. The right guy will come along who appreciates everything you have to offer. I've been on online dating sites since the mid 90s and spent countless hours wondering why I was rejected by some guys. My "rule" now is that I don't get upset over rejection until I meet someone. Before that they are just profiles on the internet.
While I enjoy this site, I don't use it for anything other than photos of hot guys in sexy gear. This isn't a dating site, its mainly for voyeurs and enthusiasts of spandex.
I've shown my face to guys before and have been ghosted as well. Who knows what turns them off? I'm 67? I'm bald? I'm not classically handsome? I'm hairy? My penis is too large (wink)? I'm white (yes, that happens too.)
There are a million reasons that guys are not attracted to me and a million reasons I'm not attracted to them. I've had three partners in my life and two I met on the internet. Realistically there was no reason for the attraction between some of us, but it happened. My latest crush is a Sikh Indian, which is pretty much the polar opposite of me. You never know where attraction happens and why it doesn't happen. Could it be the color of your skin, absolutely, but unless they tell you that you are just getting upset over something you are guessing at and more importantly can't control.
I developed a mantra to help me deal with online rejection:
I’ve been too old or too young, too tall or too short, too thin or too heavy—but I’m exactly right for one person.
Good luck on your search for Mr. Right. He'll be a lucky man to catch such a passionate guy who looks smoking hot in spandex.
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posted 5 days ago
posted by: Ritsu1113I’m open to sharing zentai space with anyone—race, ethnicity, gender identity, religion… that’s not the issue. But let’s not pretend everything’s equal in this patriarchal system… Darker-skinned folks get overlooked. We get told we don’t “fit,” or that we don’t “look right” in it. But you wanna dress up as Black Panther thinking you can dress better than Chadwick Boseman❓🤨 I’ve seen it, I’ve felt it - for six years straight. So yeah, I keep my heart open… but I’m not blind to what’s really going on. And it’s not just about race - I also see how beautiful bears, who are genuinely stunning, get overlooked because of fatphobia, which I find pretty diabolical if you ask me… What I’m trying to say is why can’t we embrace the beauty and uniqueness of everyone in zentai, and just enjoy the passion of the fabric, the confidence it brings, and the beauty of connection? Because right now, it’s starting to feel like a “Whites and Asians only” space…🍵
posted 5 days ago
The world is full of vastly different people. Attraction is entirely subjective and CANNOT be guaranteed. Especially when you're chatting with someone online. Several years ago, I had a fellow SP member tell me that I was "too fat" to wear spandex. Mind you, this happened during a discussion where he offered to custom tailor a zentai for me. Go figure. I decided that I wasn't going to let one person's insult interfere with the enjoyment that I derive from my fetish. If you're looking for, or demanding validation from other people, I'm afraid you're in for numerous disappointments ahead of you in life. This individual showed you all you needed to know. Focus your emotional bandwidth and energy on the people you do "vibe" with.
posted 5 days ago
Keep in mind that ‘embracing the beauty and uniqueness of everyone’ also implies respecting people’s unique and very personal tastes in what makes their balls or ass itch and what not😉
posted 5 days ago
There’s different types and looks and fetish for everyone. Not everyone is going to like everything and that’s ok too. At least here is specific niche for this interest so there is better chance to be in same page. It’s all good 👍 Be you. And you look great from what I remember in any case. (Dm for more if choose)
posted 4 days ago
posted by: Ritsu1113I’m open to sharing zentai space with anyone—race, ethnicity, gender identity, religion… that’s not the issue. But let’s not pretend everything’s equal in this patriarchal system… Darker-skinned folks get overlooked. We get told we don’t “fit,” or that we don’t “look right” in it. But you wanna dress up as Black Panther thinking you can dress better than Chadwick Boseman❓🤨 I’ve seen it, I’ve felt it - for six years straight. So yeah, I keep my heart open… but I’m not blind to what’s really going on. And it’s not just about race - I also see how beautiful bears, who are genuinely stunning, get overlooked because of fatphobia, which I find pretty diabolical if you ask me… What I’m trying to say is why can’t we embrace the beauty and uniqueness of everyone in zentai, and just enjoy the passion of the fabric, the confidence it brings, and the beauty of connection? Because right now, it’s starting to feel like a “Whites and Asians only” space…🍵
posted 4 days ago
I am so sorry you are experiencing this kind of sentiments & exclusional behaviour. It is a responsibility of all of us to be building more fair society including toppling of patriarchy as much as we can. Ethnicity should be of no basis for less affection and love.
Body types on the other hand, simply are. That is a matter of subjective preference (unless someone is a sapiosexual or asexual I guess).
However, even this kind of preference can be a subject of change. Some will learn & realize, some won't. Unfortunatelly, we live in very superficial society nowadays, at times it is what you claim/pretend to be rather how you actually behave & what you do.
While this might not be a best of example: similar discussion(s) have been present in a world of (sport)climbing and things are improving (albeit probably slower it could).
Stay strong, humble and yourself all the way! You are verrrrryyyy handsome/pretty and I am sure you are making people around you happy to know you. More LOVE.
posted 4 days ago
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Unfortunately we all have hung ups, likes and dislikes, but once you find that special person nothing will matter. Even cookie cutters can cut jagged, or the baking will shift it. But the end result the cookie is delicious unless its burned.
posted 1 day ago
This discussion feels important and if I could wish for anything, it's for more diverse representation - everywhere - in the club or the bar, in hollywood, the perfume advertisement, the gay magazine editorial, the porn studio, all these cultural broadcasts that end up "celebrating" a certain type or look. The only countermeasure I've found is doing whatever it takes to live in places that celebrate diversity, where communities thrive because they intentionally include queer and straight folks of all backgrounds and body-types and fashion preferences, etc... In the face of mainstream cultural preferences for a certain "beauty standard", whatever that means in your part of the world, the real privilege to me is to live somewhere with people who celebrate diversity. We may not find it online but if you can find it in real life, that's the fix for me
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posted 1 day ago
I completely agree; this is a significant issue in the spandex community. I have witnessed it firsthand, just as you've described. As a sexually fluid group, we should truly embrace everyone who shares our passion for spandex. It's essential to recognize that not everyone fits the mold of a fitness model. Many individuals here, as you've pointed out, don’t conform to the traditional "gay" ideals of attractiveness, such as having abs, big pecs, a bubble butt, or being incredibly fit.
Representation is a major problem, especially in the way companies market their gear. Most of the models they choose are white and fit the narrow definition of attractiveness that we often see in the gay community.
Moreover, the fetishization of characters like the "Black Panther" raises significant concerns. We need to question these stereotypes. I personally love when a "traditional" character, like a superhero, is portrayed by someone of a different race or gender. Why does Superman have to fit a specific mold—being white with dark hair and muscular? He could easily be portrayed as a Japanese man, a black individual who is slim, or a Latin man with a different build. I completely understand your feelings on this issue, and I want you to know that there are many of us who share your vision for change and inclusivity.
posted 23 hours ago
You can't deny cultural heritage, and the certain specific features they create, bring, nurture. They are beautiful, unique. These are the true diamonds, it's the differences we embody as a human species. For myself, I try to nurture as much as possible: basic common respect for everyone, an interrelated and international value. I guess it goes on it's own from there.
Yesterday I was on a plane from France to Belgium. I sat on the last row, overlooking the crowd. I looked at all the differences: ages, backgrounds, social situations, difference in clothing, being, etc. It makes me so happy seeing all these people together respecting each other for the time being. People have the ability to adapt, reframe, rethink. People have a lot of fears and want to be accepted by others. People want to be unique, feel unique and act like it.