posted by: Swimmer2004
Sadly, I've never had much success with that. It seems like having a fet for spandex is almost like a DNA thing - it's either there or it's not, and from my own experience and talking to guys and reading the "Spandex Beginnings" in guy's profiles on here, we seem to discover it pretty young. Something usually triggers it early, like when we start wearing it for a sport, or we see someone at home or sometimes just someone random wearing it. Even beyond trying to convert someone to wearing it, my best case is usually that they like how I look in something spandex that I'm wearing, but if playing starts, they want it off me ASAP. The garment itself does absolutely nothing for them. No different than a typical guy who sees a woman in leggings and a sports bra and thinks "OMG she looks hot", but if anything goes down, they want her naked and in bed ASAP. They don't give a fuck about what she's wearing.
Like you, I've found that men fall into one of two camps. They're either curious and intrigued, or totally indifferent regardless of how you explain the erotic appeal to them. And quite a few of them think spandex/lycra is limited to the realm of women's swim and athletic wear, and are afraid of being perceived as "feminine" if they try it. I definitely believe those of us who enjoy it develop our fondness early in life. For me, it was watching old episodes of the Batman TV program and being taken to the ballet by my stepmother.
I've had a few boyfriends across the decades who were open to playing around in spandex, but I can't say that I "converted" anyone. Simply finding another spandex enthusiast to date has always been a challenge. Even when I lived in a large metropolitan area.